Who is the most important person in your life?

KARUA PETER | The Melanesian Lookout Blog

IT IS OFTEN DIFFICULT to figure out who in our life is the most important person. If somebody asks you: “Who is the most important person in your life?” what would your answer be?

We live in a rapidly changing world—a world that is continuously in the transitional state where everything is subject to change. Change is inevitable. Our needs change over time with our goals and priorities.

So, the most important person in our life changes every time our needs and priorities change. For instance, the most important person in one’s life would be God if he is a Christian who is asked such a question in a public church congregation.

When he leaves the church, that most important person in his life is changed to another figure depending on the situation he currently is in.

In a meeting at Crown Plaza Hotel on Friday 22 February, a colleague of mine asked me ‘who is the most important person in my life’.

I responded: “The most important person in my life is not God, nor my parents, nor the politicians, nor my countrymen, and even not any single person in the entire world. The most important person in my life is me.” 

At first glance, you might think such are the words of people who are self-centered, greedy, egocentric and other terms eligible enough to describe a person whose care and consciousness is limited to himself and his interests.

However, if your perceptions are all based on others and their well-being and interests, then who is there to care about yours.

Most people who mention God or other figures as being the most important person in their life other than themselves only do in order to impress others and/or to serve the interests of others. People are misled by such perceptions and this is one of the major factors that slows the development of people.

Why do we continue to experience social disorder, corruption, political crisis, economic downfalls, environmental issues, and law and order problems? Because we do not have a clear and accurate perception of whom we really are. We try to impress others or serve their interests in every occasion while they are waiting for us to change the world.

Even those in positions of power may do certain things in their own interests but with the ‘title’ of doing them to serve our interests. But behind the closed doors they pray that we do not discover the truth. Many times we see that truth, but because we make the mistake of having those in positions of power as the most important people in our life, we let it go. 

For instance if you say that God is the most important person in your life, then you remain unimportant, caught up in the slavery of your own perception of who you are and stay the same person while the world changes and move on with time. So when will God come down to Earth to change things?

Probably God is waiting for you to make the change when you are waiting for him. When will the power possessors come out to change things? No, they will not come out. They already have done their part in their own ways but all of these had resulted in the kind of world that we live in today. 

So then, when will you regard yourself as the most important person in your Life, realise and appreciate your potentials and move the world instead of letting to move you?

Comments

[Pikus Evino]

Karua, thank you for the piece which is expressing the reality of humankind.

Whether consciously or otherwise, man is a a greedy and selfish being. We only pretend to make other people important in our lives due to circumstances.

Only God and no created being has such honest and pure love for another humankind.

[Jerome Aiake]

Thanks Karua Peter for this very important reflective point.

Truly, many people see other things or people as the most important thing in their life.

I sometimes do too but now I've read your article I will have to sit back and seriously reflect on things.

Thank you for bringing to my eyelight this very important issue.

[Talsha Bannick]

That was one excellent article. If I was asked that question some weeks ago then I would say lots of people are important to me.

However today, I would say I am the most important person in my life. I am not self-centered, I do appreciate my family and friends, but even if they are close to me they don't go through all the pains or whatever I face.

Even if they are there at my side, it is my pain they won't feel. So what I am saying is that you yourself are the important person in your life.

[Jerilee Diaram]

Well nowadays most people think of themselves. Who they are, what they are doing and what other people will think of their actions.

This clearly shows that they are self centred; they think of themselves with putting a pause and think of people around them. Especially those who love and care for them, who think they are important to them.

What I am saying is; if you say that you are important to yourself - and what about people who regard you as important in their lives? It is something that we all have to think about it.

Yes, as for me, I am important to me, but there are also other people that are important in my life. Like, my dad, mum and my siblings, I regard them as very important people in my life. Because without them, I don't know what kind of life I would have.

I am thankful for having such people who I regard them as important people in my life.

[Bernard Yegiora]

An interesting article, it really made me think.

[Sedrick Moka]

Thankyou Mr Karua Peter.

That was an inspirational thought for the mind.You see, nowadays we the people are exposed to many earthly staffs that turn to draw our mindset away from ourself,which is ethically and personally not right.

The point is, we have to set our priorities right by examining and understanding ourselves,before we place other people in the different positions in our lives.

[Lithiana Nondebia]

Firstly, thank you Mr Karua Peter for putting up a wonderful article online.

You know during these days, having someone as the most important person in your life is changing.

Why? Maybe because Papua New Guinea is a democratic and christian country in which we don't bother about making changes .
And mind you, changes happen any time at any place and the choice is in your hands.

Secondly, I really liked the last paragraph of your article. Having yourself as the most important person to your life is cool.

But be mindful, no man is an island. You need someone important to survive on this planet earth.

Or if you don't want anyone then you have to have someone and that might God. Because He is the only important person that you need in your life.

[Rozabelle Hota]

Thanks Karua for the very nice article. There is a saying that goes "no man is an island". I truly believe in this proverb because, take for example, you cannot teach and learn at the same time.

What I mean is that we need someone to work or live with us like the desert needs the rain. We can name all the people in the world but, trully is that one person will help and live you for the rest of your life?.

From God, we will still need people to help us move on here on earth. For example, we ask God for wisdom, he has already given us but we need others to help us get wisdom.

Or I'll say, we do things or survive on this earth by not only one person but all. Every persons we know are the most important people in our life.

[Michael Dom]

Thank you Karua Peter, your article was very enligthening.